“We are human,” I responded, “and we have human emotions. Annoyance, frustration and even anger are normal emotions that all people (including managers) experience.”
I think it is important that managers, as well as employees, avoid letting the steam in their boilers build up to a red-alert level. Even though we try not to get upset, we sometimes feel like we are walking in quicksand.
If an employee’s behavior angers you by lagging in late to meetings, say something like, “You know it may be small thing, but it upsets me that you are often late to our meetings. The five minutes may be nugatory, but you can help me prevent an ulcer if you will show up on time.”
Often, staff members will strive to correct petty behaviors that ruffle their managers’ feathers. But even if they don’t, it is better for all if we openly communicate our concerns. If we try to force down annoyances, regardless of how minor, they don’t’ dissolve. Most often, the irritations simmer and sometimes they erupt.