“Why?” I asked.
“If I present my ideas first, others may be reluctant to express views that differ. I get fewer opinions.”
Team members tell me that free-flowing discussions do not depend on who goes first. Rather, the critical factor is how leaders react to opposing views.
One member reported, “Our leader always begins by asking our opinions. However, he quickly attacks ideas that he disagrees with.” The member continued to explain that participants tried to guess their leader’s view. Those who agreed with what they believed to be the leader’s position spoke up. Those who opposed remained quiet.
A member of a different team reported, “Our leader likes a good argument. He tells you what he thinks and he encourages push back. We have rancorous debates but there are no hard feelings.”
Leaders who create a climate conducive to openness are respectful of all suggestions. They value opposing views. Differences are never personal. Honesty and freedom prevail. There is no guessing what others think. Passionate discussions are the norm. The result is improved decisions and greater commitment. Who talks first is not an issue.